Being Thankful
Facilitated By Nellie Mueller
January 16, 2023
The individual I spoke participates in a cargiver support group. She shared with me that her and her family have been heavily discussing placement options for her husband. As she is telling me this, I can see her fighting back tears and at a loss for words. As she looks up and me with tears rolling down her face I asked her "what are you thankful for"? She smiled at me and said "I am thankful for our wonderful holiday we shared together". Since her husband's dementia diagnoses, holidays can be stressful and unpredictable due to his behaviors. She stated sometimes they can be far from normal. She stated this year was the most "normal" holiday they've had in a long time, which brought her so much joy. Putting a Christmas tree was always something her and her husband would do together, but as his dementia progressed, it was not longer a priority to him. She told me that her husband even asked to put a tree up this year. She said in past years, decorating a Christmas tree was something she did on her own just to keep the tradition alive. But this year he asked about setting up a Christmas tree. It was such a special moment for her, myself, and everyone in the room.
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